People With Herpes Share Their Dating Exprience

Herpes doesn't mean the end of the road for love. People with herpes share how they learned about their diagnosis, and how they makes their relationship work.

Navigating the dating scene with herpes proved to be a manageable journey for me, thanks to a combination of vigilance and commitment. Preferring serious relationships over casual flings, I took valacyclovir a daily ally, ensuring that I could confidently assure my partners of an outbreak-free existence and a negligible risk of transmission. It's a preventive measure that has granted me a sense of control over a condition that some, unfortunately, struggle with.

In the realm of responsible living, I couldn't help but advocate for caution, urging others to be mindful of the potential consequences. Having contracted herpes from a less-than-responsible individual, I became an advocate for taking charge of one's health and making informed choices.

Despite my proactive approach, the process of disclosure remained a personal challenge, tinged with a hint of trauma. However, the silver lining was the consistently kind reception from those I trusted with this vulnerable truth. Serendipity smiled upon me, and I found myself particularly fortunate with the second lady I disclosed to about my condition—she not only embraced my truth but also became the cornerstone of a lifelong commitment as my wife.

In the tapestry of my experiences, herpes became a thread rather than a defining factor. The narrative shifted from the initial challenges of disclosure to a story of resilience, responsibility, and unexpected love. As I continued to advocate for preventive measures, my personal journey affirmed that, even in the face of stigmatized conditions, genuine connections and understanding hearts could prevail.

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I have HSV1 and also HPV so ymmv. I lead a very normal sex life. I've had hookups, relationships, the whole nine and almost everyone has been unbelievably sweet about it. For the hookups, it's actually worked in my favor somehow. People seem to be very appreciative of the honesty and it opens the conversation about sex.

Only one girl has had a problem with it and frankly, I dodged a bullet with that one. I'm now in a very loving relationship with a fully negative partner.

To my knowledge, I've never spread anything to anyone and the only difference in my life is that I spend time looking over my pelvis carefully. That and the odd time I need to get an HPV wart removed (not fun but sometimes it makes me laugh at myself). You're way more OK than it might seem in this moment.

Sucess stories from who are negative and dated someone positive

I don’t have herpes, but I dated a girl who did. She took Valtrex daily and she let me know if she was feeling off. Had sex with protection and without protection. Never caught it and she never had another outbreak.

I can tell you from the other side of it, that you should know and be able to explain everything about it when approached by it. If you show you’re being responsible, then it will make them feel more comfortable.

It’s really not the end of the world, and there’s life ahead of you man. It might take a little more time to find the person you’re looking for, but when you do, it will be better than anything you’ve ever had before.

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People on the online herpes community try to make herpes out to be not some big deal but it really is. In my younger years, I used to be a open-minded dude.

I met a woman on plenty of fish over 10 years ago. After our first date, we went to her house and things got hot and heavy ASAP. Before we had sex, she informed me that she had genital herpes. She told me that she can feel when she's about to have a outbreak and that she wouldn't have sex with me during a outbreak. Because she was a registered nurse, I trusted her and I also saw myself marrying her.

I stayed with her for about 3 years and never contracted it. During my time with her, herpes gave her body all types of aches and pains. It also made her very tired and easily agitated.

After 3 years, the thought of contracting herpes really started to bother me because I no longer saw myself being with her. I figured I was lucky this long, I might as well break it off right now while I'm ahead.

5 years ago I met a woman online. Went on one date and things escalated to a sexual level when we got in my ride after the date. While making out. She stops me and says I have to tell you something, being that I've been through this before already knew what it was. I said what, you got herpes and she replied yes. This woman told me she was being celibate until marriage so I didn't see it as that big of a deal.

We dated for about a year.After a while, she started causing me all types of issues getting all my nerves acting like an entitled brat more than I liked.

I remember one day I asked her, let's say the roles were reversed. Would you date me if I had herpes and you didn't? She said no, I wouldn't date you.That told me everything I needed to know about having herpes. Ever since that day, I stopped giving people with herpes or whatever the fuck else they have a chance.

Dating is already hard enough as a man, dating with a STD as a man is dating on the hardest difficulty. As a woman, yes, you will have men who will reject you for having herpes but there's also hella thirsty guys out there who don't give a fuck.

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I would date a woman with herpes but fuck no

I know a woman I still love has herpes, I asked her the same thing u asked that girl.. but instead her answer was yes.. but eventually we ended too.. my daughter's mom and her jealous friends influenced the ending.. at the time also too i was down on my luck. this was 15 years ago or so..

I'm on the fence if I would date a woman with the std luggage such as herpies.. but fuck no.. wouldn't date a woman with any std period. I be asking for the test results with some of these folks.. there's women and men walking around with hep B and hep c as well.. hpv. Which can cause cervical or testicular cancer, remember yall we can get deathly sick 😫 after a night of sultry passion that stays a permanent memory.

But youu can also catch herpes as mouth to genital crossover the hsv1 can be initiated to the genitals. And hvs2 can be initiated to your mouth and other parts of the body.

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There are plenty of people like this who do not care.

Hey I understand the depression I was depressed for years until I finally decided enough was enough. I have been diagnosed with herpes for 10 years and have had 20+ partners since diagnosis. None of them to their knowledge have genital herpes, some had cold sores.

I am currently with a guy who is completely HSV negative. He works at a blood lab and took a test just for shits and giggles. He knows about my herpes I disclosed and he is completely fine with it and accepts the risks. There are plenty of people like this who do not care.

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